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Initiating & Upholding Islamic Marriage
Hedaya Hartford
Paperback
9789957230630
Beautiful words from what we consider to be the best book on the Islamic marriage.
"Be careful if you make a woman cry because Allah Most High counts her tears. A woman came out of the rib of man, not his feet to be walked on, nor his head to be superior over; she came from his side to be his companion, under his arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved."
And wise words:
"Many Muslims mistakenly read books of fiqh as guide books to better living. A cursory look at the rules established by the Sacred Law will often reveal the letter of the law and not necessarily the spirit… That is to say, they tell you what rights you have in front of a judge, not how you should live ideally… Rights or duties are not instruments of abuse for a husband or wife to use against each other. Such conduct indicates a lack of understanding of the spirit of an Islamic marriage and Islam itself."
Contents:
First Steps
Love in Islam
Common Sense Before Marriage
Fallacies About Happiness
Men as Men, Women as Women
Created Different
Criterion for Selection
Rights and Obligations: Letter and Spirit
Duties of the Husband
The Wife's Obligations
Appearance and Demeanor
Obedience or Abuse
The Wife Who Earns Paradise
Protocol with In-Laws
Staying Married
Preconceptions
Setting the Tone of an Islamic Marriage
Marriage and the Nafs
Establishing Good Habits
Good Humour
Getting Along
The Wise Husband
Love and Comfort
Affection
Tenderness and the Female Nature
Bedroom Behaviour
Divorce
Merits of a Spiritual Marriage